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Happy Mother’s Day

Happy Mother’s Day to my fellow hard-working ladies.  We are the glue that holds it all together.  There is no glory in being a mom.  It’s an under-appreciated, messy, dirty, thankless job.  And we do it for no pay.  But it’s also the best job in the world. A smile, a kiss, a proud mommy moment…  those moments make the tough days bearable.

Make sure you celebrate the mom in your life and also celebrate yourself today.

Sleep in, read a good book, do no dishes, no laundry, no cooking, no taxi-driving…  JUST RELAX!  (Don’t worry – the mess will still be waiting for you tomorrow!)

Happy Mom’s Day!

 

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Maternity Leave Is Not a Vacation

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Everything about this ridiculous book makes me want to scream.

She says, “After 10 years of working in a job where I was always on deadline, I couldn’t help but feel envious when parents on staff left the office at 6 p.m. to tend to their children, while it was assumed co-workers without kids would stay behind to pick up the slack.”

That’s Bulls#&t!

I had a 15-year career in the television industry and I either had to continue working my regular 60-70 hours a week after I had kids, or choose to give up my career. Those were my two choices. No one was “okay” with me leaving at 6pm just because I became a mom. So I abandoned my hard-earned career because when confronted with the choice between career and my baby, my baby won.  And my career was done.

As a mother, I can’t understand how this woman can tell the world that when women have babies, they get a “vacation” to take care of their babies.  They get “ME TIME”.  That’s a laugh.  It’s completely NOT true.

Motherhood is not a break.  It’s not “ME TIME”. It’s the complete opposite.  Everything during those first few months, is blindly focused on the baby you gave birth to.  “Me” is an after-thought.  “Me” is neglected.  “Me” is forgotten.

Not to mention that motherhood F#@ks up careers, and it’s the farthest thing from a vacation you can imagine.

But yet this author has decided she is entitled to “Me-ternity”, like our “Ma-ternity”.  To take care of herself.  Alone.

Moms dream of having 5 minutes ALONE!  She is clueless.  And the idea of “ME-ternity” is beyond ridiculous.

So… I’ve decided that her punishment for writing this book should be that she needs to actually take MATERNITY LEAVE and to take care of a baby for that entire time. No sleep, no showers, no pee’ing alone, no pooping alone, no doing anything alone. And certainly no “ME-TIME”.

What do you think?  I am sure that she’ll be singing a different tune after that.

And I think she’ll owe a lot of hard-working moms an apology!

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Read about her here – http://nypost.com/2016/04/28/i-want-all-the-perks-of-maternity-leave-without-having-any-kids/

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What Do You Need?

I love this.

I discovered this bulletin board hanging in my lovely, little town. It says, “Take What You Need”. And the tabs read,

Love, Hope, Faith, Patience,

Courage, Understanding, Peace,

Passion, Strength, Beauty.

 

All of our basic human needs.

My wish is that the tab you take could actually help with what you NEED. Wouldn’t that be amazing?

I need pretty much all of it… love, faith, courage, and strength. Oh, and let’s not forget patience. What mom couldn’t use a lot more patience? Every single day.

So what is it that you NEED?  Let us know.

 

 

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Why I Don’t Answer The Phone

Friends and family sometime complain that I never answer my phone. There is a very simple reason why.

The short answer: BECAUSE I HAVE CHILDREN.

The long answer: BECAUSE I HAVE CHILDREN!

Read this mom’s explanation.  I love it because I feel the same.

She summed it up perfectly. Don’t expect me to answer the phone and have a QUIET conversation with you, if my kids are home.

Even though my kids are a little older than that mom’s kids, I can tell you that it NEVER CHANGES. The house is voicemailloud, the kids need me all the time, and I can’t hold a thought for more than 30 seconds.

A nice quiet conversation on the phone just doesn’t happen. The minute I pick up the phone, my kids desperately “need” me. Right that minute.

In addition to my kids, I also have 3 dogs (who all bark in unison every time a car drives by, or a squirrel climbs a tree, or a bird flies…). So even when the kids are at school, my dogs take over.

Common things yelled at my house are…

“Mom, where’s my sweatshirt?”

“MOMMMM-EEEEEE, I lost my train!!!!”

“Mommy, I pooped, come wipe my tushy”

“I’m Hungry”

“I’m Thirsty”

“I’m BORED!”

“MOMMY, the dog just threw up on the rug”

This is on a daily basis, whether I am speaking on the phone or not.  So I usually choose NOT to be on the phone.  Answering the phone and having an intelligent conversation doesn’t work so well.  Or end so well…  the promises I have made while “shushing” my kids, are ridiculous. “What? When did I say I’d buy you a TV for your room?” 

My other issue is having the callers complain that I am not focused on them.  UH, you’re right, I’m not!  I’m sorry but my kids want all of my attention.

So please, before you dial my number, understand that I probably won’t answer.  And just text me instead. Or email me.  I like email.  And if I do answer, please understand I may only be half listening.

♥ ♥ ♥

I’m just a mom trying to keep my sanity.

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Seriously, Just Go The F**k To Sleep

HONEST PARENTING MOMENT:

Most kids haven’t yet learned the full value of sleep. The important preciousness of catching your much needed zzzzzzz’s. So kids fight against going to sleep. Every single night.

I admit, I struggle with bedtime. I am home alone every evening with my kids and each night feels like the movie, “Groundhog Day”. I repeat the same routine every night.  I do baths, brush little teeth, read a couple books, say prayers… basically, I cover every single bedtime ritual those damn parenting books told me to.  Then kisses and hugs goodnight and I tiptoe down the stairs.

And every night, the minute my feet hit the bottom step, I hear, “MOMMMMMMMM-EEEEEEEEEE”.

“Yes?”, I call.

“I’m lonely”, the little voice upstairs says.

“It’s okay, I am right downstairs, don’t feel lonely, get some sleep”.

“Okay”, the cute little voice says. And I hear them hop in bed.

About 20 seconds later…. “MOMMMMMMMM-EEEEEEEEEEE”.

“I’m thirsty”

“I’m cold”

“I’m hot”

“I’m awake”

“I’m not tired”

“I’m hungry”

“I’m full”

“I’m scared”

“I DON’T KNOW HOW TO FALL ASLEEP”

This happens every, single, night.

I stay calm and go back upstairs and soothe the child having trouble falling asleep.

But honestly, every single night, I really want to yell, “JUST GO THE F**K TO SLEEP!”  Admit it, every mom out there knows exactly how I feel!

So when I stumbled upon this awesome book-reading by actress Jennifer Garner, I was thrilled to discover I am not alone. I did a little research and discovered it’s actually a very popular book among parents…

 

“I know you’re not thirsty. That’s bullshit. Stop lying.”

“Lie the F**k down, my darling, and sleep”.

You have to watch this video if you haven’t already. I love it….

“Go the F**k to Sleep”, read by Jennifer Garner:

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Now I don’t feel so bad saying, PLEASE, kids, just GO THE F**K TO SLEEP!  lol

 

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Important Disclaimer:  I will not be reading this book TO my kids. But it does make me feel a lot better to know I am not the only mom who wants to!  ~Cindie

 

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That Moment When You Realize You Traded Your Sanity For…

That moment when you realize you traded your sanity for…Your Children!

When you are lucky enough to have children, you give them your “all”. You commit fully. And doing that often means losing every ounce of sanity you may have had left.

It happens to each and every parent.

It’s a fair trade, though… your brain cells in return for these amazing little people.

Inevitably though, there is that moment when you realize they have sucked all the sanity, right out of your brain.

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My first moment of awareness (and I have had many more since!) came when I sent my kindergartener to school in an adorable penguin nightgown… for “pajama day” at school.  I had a baby at home who wasn’t sleeping, I wasn’t sleeping. We had just moved from another state, and I was struggling to figure out everything going on at our new elementary school. I was trying very hard to fit in and meet new families and do everything “right”.

So when I got a note from my daughter’s kindergarten teacher saying THURSDAY, MARCH 3rd would be “Pajama Day” at school, I thought, “How fun”!

On Wednesday evening, my daughter and I picked out her favorite pajamas (the penguin nightgown was her choice). I took photos as she got on the bus, in her penguin nightgown and matching slippers! She looked so cute.

Fast-forward to the end of the school day. My daughter got off the bus and said (no, she yelled), “Mommy, guess what?”. “TOMORROW is pajama day. Not today”!  Yep, I sent her to school in her nightgown.  The poor kid walked around all day… class, recess, lunch… in her nightgown!  NO!  She must be wrong, I thought. I ran inside the house and found the letter and sure enough, it said, FRIDAY, MARCH 3rd!  F*&K!  (I actually yelled, “FUDGE!”).

That was the first moment I realized I had officially lost my mind. My kids had stolen every single brain cell left in my head. I knew WHY it happened…  there was way too much swirling around inside my brain, and too little sleep, to actually remember it all.

I apologized to my daughter and together we picked out another pajama outfit for the next day. I was relieved she was just 5 years-old, and not any older because she was pretty unfazed. I am sure a 4th grader would’ve been completely traumatized by it. But thankfully my kindergartener said sweetly, “it’s okay Mommy, I was actually really comfy in my nightgown all day”.

And that was the moment I decided to embrace the insanity of motherhood. Why? Because I knew it would happen again. My brain cells would keep disappearing into those vast depths of parenthood.

But then, I had a revelation… My little sanity-suckers may have caused many of my brain cells to disappear, but they have also made my HEART grow 10 times in size.

And you know what? I consider that to be a very fair trade.  ♥

 

 

 

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Important Moments: Teaching Empathy & Compassion

Empathy and Compassion. Among the most important traits a human being can have, yet many people have no understanding of the definition of either.

Here are their definitions:

COMPASSION:  Noun 1.  – a deep awareness of and sympathy for another’s suffering.  2.  – the humane quality of understanding the suffering of others and wanting to do something about it.

EMPATHY:  Noun 1. – understanding and entering into another’s feelings

Such basic ideas. And they seem so easy to teach…. Just put yourself in someone else’s shoes. Think, “how would I feel if that happened to me?”  “What would I do if this happened to me?” “How can I help this person?”

But, for some reason, parents are forgetting to teach their children these simple lessons. Compassion is not innate, kids need to learn it, or be shown by example. And sadly more and more people simply don’t care about how others feel.

So I know parents must be skipping this one huge lesson.

The only thing we can do is to make a change.

Begin teaching it again.

One child at a time.

So please… remember each and every day to show your kids what empathy is. How important it is. Teach them how to help others. How they can open their hearts.

Otherwise, the world will be full of people who care only about themselves and not about each other. And you know what?  That sounds pretty awful to me.

 

A story from HUMANS OF NEW YORK about teaching your children to have empathy and compassion:

“I want to raise good people. I don’t want them to grow into people who will do anything they can to get ahead. So every chance I get, I’m trying to teach them to put themselves in other peoples’ shoes. I always ask my oldest daughter to describe how she thinks another person feels. Then we try to imagine ways to make them feel better. I want them to learn that, yes, it feels good to get what you want. But it can feel just as good to help someone else get what they want.”

Courtesy Humans of New York

 

Read this and other amazing real life stories at Humans of New York.

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That Moment When You Make A Ripple In The Water

Life is full of MOMENTS.

Moments like this one remind me that it’s possible to make a small ripple, even in a very big pond.

Try it. Throw a stone, and watch the water change.

Have something to say? …Say it.

Feel like you need to DO something? …Do it.

Just make sure the stone you throw is a good one… it needs to be the right shape so it skips along the water, and doesn’t just sink. By the way, the right stone = kindness and compassion. So choose that stone carefully.

Then go ahead and throw it. And stand back and watch the ripples.

 

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Life With Three Dogs: The Stolen Pizza

Dogs are like children. Fun, but a lot of work. But just like my kids, I wouldn’t want to live my life without my dogs.

When I had just one dog, it was relatively easy. Then we adopted a 2nd dog and it was more fun and a bit more work for me. Last year I accidentally rescued a 3rd dog and my once calm house turned into a crazy zoo! Sure they are all cute, but it’s a zoo.

An example of the daily zoo-like chaos occurred yesterday when my 8-year-old neighbor unexpectedly knocked on our front door. Unexpected visitors and 3 dogs are not a good combination. One dog barks, the other 2 assume there is a murderer at the front door and they all go into “attack mode”. Basically, chaos erupts.

Through the barking, my neighbor told me she had come over to see if my daughter wanted to go to her house for a playdate. I was starting to make dinner so I told my daughter she could go over for a ½ hour but that she needed to come back for our “make your own pizza” night.  I had the dough and all the ingredients already out on the counter. Each of my kids was going to personalize their own pizza.

My daughter went out the front door, and suddenly my middle dog lunged out the door at the neighbor. He didn’t try to hurt her, but he jumped on her and suddenly I see feathers everywhere. His nails had sliced a hole right down the back of her goose down jacket. She started spinning around and feathers flew out. Which made my dog go bananas. She began to run, and he chased the feathers.

I ran after both of them, hoping my dog didn’t think he was chasing an actual goose! Eventually, my neighbor and my daughter got out of our yard and past where my dog could run. Safe.

I walked back into my house with my dog, laughing about the scene. All those feathers flying. Me yelling, the 2 girls hysterically laughing. Wait a minute. I stopped abruptly. I realized I now owed my neighbor a new down coat!  UGH.

I opened my front door and I immediately sensed something was wrong. My house was quiet. Where were my other 2 dogs? Silence. Surely they witnessed that scene outside. But they were quiet.

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I walked into my kitchen and found them. Quiet as could be. Eating everything I had put out on the counter for dinner. E-V-E-R-Y-T-H-I-N-G. The pizza dough, the sauce, the cheese, the pepperoni, the mushrooms. All of it was gone. Well, not completely gone, there were crumbs everywhere.

And it was at that precise moment that I decided to sell all 3 dogs on eBay. Really cheap. Don’t let the cute faces fool you! They are EVIL.

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