Tomorrow is the start of a new year. The perfect time to wish everyone a HAPPY NEW YEAR!
Also, it’s a good time to choose resolutions for the upcoming year.
Don’t feel pressured. I’m sure I’m not alone in saying that I am STILL working on my resolutions from last New Year’s Day! They are tough to stick with past January.
But this year I have a few resolutions you can and SHOULD stick with. These are specifically for moms.
They go beyond the traditional, “Eat Healthy”, “Lose Weight”, “Exercise More”. Here they are…
THE 5 MOST IMPORTANT NEW YEAR RESOLUTIONS FOR MOMS:
#1 Put on makeup that ISN’T applied by your 4-year-old.
Everyday. Even just for a trip to the supermarket. I’m not talking full Kardashian-sisters’ makeup, but just a touch of lip gloss, or mascara, can boost how you feel. When I slink out of my house in my pj’s, baseball hat to cover my bed head & maybe even without brushing my teeth (don’t judge – I know you have all done the same!)… I feel like a schlub. Even on my extra-tired days, if I put on a little makeup, even just a little eyeliner & lipstick; I feel almost human again. Those 2 minutes it takes you to apply it, are well worth it for your self-confidence!
#2 Become better at asking for help from the outside world.
This is a hard one. When I had my babies, I was convinced I could do it all myself. It was a matter of pride. Of feeling like I would be a failure if I asked for help. But I quickly discovered that no mother does it alone. Let me repeat that… no mother does it alone. It’s impossible. The smart ones learn to ask for help early. The prideful ones learn it a little later. Eventually, every mom realizes it truly does take a village. And that village is all around you, ready (and often eager) to help. Just ask them.
#3 Take a class.
Not a mommy & me class, but a class for you. Maybe an art class. A pottery class. A fitness class. There are so many options. Just do something for yourself. One hour a week of your own “ME” time, will do wonders for you. If you’re hesitant to take a new class alone, ask a fellow mom friend to join you!
#4 Plan more date nights.
As tough as a date night is to schedule (or to even care much about when you are so tired), they are important. It’s a chance for you & the hubby to reconnect. Go out & have a couple of drinks, laugh at the stupid stuff the kids do, reconnect with each other. You’ll remember why you liked each other in the first place. And let’s face it fellow-moms, most husbands aren’t planning date nights, so it’s up to you to take the reins and plan them.
#5 Yell less. Use the creepy quiet mom voice more often.
Kids become immune to their mom’s yelling & lectures. After a while, all your yelling will accomplish is to frustrate YOU. The kids stop hearing it. But use that quiet, calm, and slightly creepy sweet voice… and they will stop in their tracks. It’s a very useful tool. Remember to use it more often in the new year.
My BONUS resolution is:
Enjoy your children this year. It’s not always easy to do as a mom. Believe me, I understand! But soon they will be grown and you will miss these tough years with your little ones. So try hard to embrace yet another crazy year.
HAPPY NEW YEAR TO MY FELLOW MOMS!