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A Letter To My Teen Self

I recently wrote a letter to my teenage self. Why? Because some days I miss the young me. (Some days I don’t at all!)  But on the days that I do, I often think about how the young me could have benefited from a little insight into what was to come. And a little guidance from the older, much wiser “me”, may have made some things a little easier.

So here goes…  my letter:

Dear Teenage Me,

You’re awesome, even if you don’t think so!  Here are important tips and advice from the older YOU…

Be Yourself:

As a teen, it’s so important to fit in. To keep up with everyone else. To be cool. But what’s actually cool is to be yourself.  There is no one else that is YOU.  If you like a shirt, wear it.  If you like a book, read it.  If you like music, dance to it.  If you want to laugh out loud, do it.  Don’t look around first to make sure others are laughing too.  Always remember there is only one YOU. That alone makes YOU cool.

Worry Less, Enjoy More:

Don’t worry so much. Life gets much harder and more complicated.  Anxiety is tough to avoid. So while you’re young, let others do the worrying and just try to enjoy simply being a kid. There will be plenty of things for you to worry about when you are older.

Embrace Your Youth:

Stay carefree, for as long as you can. Soon you will learn about responsibilities and mortgages and bills…  And from that moment on, you will never feel carefree again. So embrace it while you can.

Forget Fear:

Don’t be afraid.  If you want to ask a question, ask it. If you want to try something new, try it. Don’t limit yourself because of fear. This is the time in your life you can be extra brave and take a leap. So try new things. Welcome new experiences… it’s the perfect time in your life to discover what fits. When you get older, your responsibilities will stop you from taking those leaps. So take them now.

Don’t Wish To Grow Up Too Fast:

It may seem so appealing to be a grown-up because you can make your own decisions, but along with decisions come the consequences of those decisions. So don’t grow up too fast. Stay young and enjoy all the benefits youth gives you. The adults in your life will help you make tough decisions. Try hard to embrace their wisdom!

And most important:

Love Yourself:

You may not be your biggest fan right now, but one day, you will be. So try to listen to those around you who cheer you on. Pay attention to their encouragement. Listen to the positives and tune out the negatives.  Feel pride.  Forgive yourself for any mistakes you might make… you are human and mistakes are okay!  Mostly, try hard to love YOU!   Why?  Because you are amazing, and someday you’ll believe that.

Trust me!

LOVE,

Me/You (20 years in the future)  

 

 

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“You’re The Meanest Mom In The World!”

Moms, I have a question for you…  Have you ever been called “the meanest mom in the whole world”?

If your answer is “no”, consider yourself lucky.  But I have to tell you… it’s probably coming.

If you’re like me (and most moms), and your answer is “yes”, well then, welcome to the club.  According to my kids, I’m the “worst”, the “meanest”, and every so often I get, “you’re the most embarrassing mom ever”.mean-mom

It’s taken some tears, some reading of parenting books, and some enlisting advice from fellow mom friends, but I finally determined that it actually means I am doing a good job.  (Or at least I have convinced myself that’s what it means!).

Those “you’re the meanest mom” comments are only yelled when a mom makes a very smart parenting decision.  For example, lay out a rule that will stop your child from doing something that could hurt them. Or get them kidnapped. Or lead them down a bad path…  You get the point. Basically, it’s when you are doing your job and your kids just don’t like hearing the word “NO”, that they will tell you how “MEAN” you are.  It’s tough to hear, but it really means you care.

So I’d like to take a moment to remind every mom or dad out there who hears they are “THE WORST” today, to remember it probably means you are actually THE BEST.

And please, keep up the good work!

If you need some tips about how to piss off your kids, while truly helping them become awesome humans, then read this… it’s pretty accurate…

12 Ways To Be The Meanest Mom

#MomsRule  #DadsRule  #KidsAreTough

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Women ROCK. And We Can Run A Country Too!

I’ve tried to stay out of the political “you-know-what-storm” (okay, the shit-storm), that has been going on.  But tonight I’m jumping in….  With a question.  And it’s a big question.

Why CAN’T a woman RUN a country like ours?

Women run corporations, families, large and small businesses.  Women are MORE than capable of leading a country.  But why has it been so hard for America to accept that fact?  Women are smart.  Women are tough.  Women are compassionate.  Women are leaders.  Women are STRONG.  All are qualities our country desperately needs right now from the next leader.

A female running a country is nothing new.  New for America?  Yes.  New for the world?  No.

Here is an eye-opening list of other countries’ female leaders….

 

Helle Thorning-Schmidt, Prime Minister of Denmark

Margaret Thatcher, Prime Minister of The United Kingdom

Yingluck Shinawatra, Prime Minister of Thailand

Angela Merkel, Chancellor of Germany

Cristina Fernández de Kirchner, President of Argentina

Dilma Rousseff, President of Brazil

Julia Gillard, Prime Minister of Australia

Ellen Johnson-Sirleaf, President of Liberia

Sheik Hasina Wajed, Prime Minister of Bangladesh

Johanna Sigurdardottir, Prime Minister of Iceland

Laura Chinchilla, President of Costa Rica

Tarja Halonen, President of Finland

Dalia Grybauskaite, President of Lithuania

Kamla Persad-Bissessar, Prime Minister of Trinidad and Tobago

 

What a list.  What an amazing contribution women have made to the world.

So please, please, please… ignore the fact that the BEST candidate is a female.  Forget it.  Completely.  And instead focus on the fact that we have an incredibly smart, capable, sharp, tough, mentally stable (and I don’t say that one lightly, especially in comparison to her competition!) …and STRONG candidate to vote for in November.

It’s simple: Women Rock.  There is no reason a woman can’t be in charge of our great nation.  Try and remember that through all this craziness.  Vote for the person, and their ability and skills.  Not for the fact that they are male or female.

 

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#ImWithHer

#VoteInNovember

#Hillary

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The Gorilla Shouldn’t Have Been Killed, But It’s Not The Zoo’s Fault

A 17-year-old Silver Back Gorilla Was Shot and Killed at the Cincinnati Zoo After a Child Climbed Into His Enclosure.

I’m sure you’ve seen the headlines and the frightening video onlookers shot of the incident at the Cincinnati Zoo when officials were forced to shoot Harambe, a 17-year-old gorilla.  It’s all over the news.

Here’s a recap.

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My personal feelings are that I’m so mad. And sad too.

First of all, I am an animal lover, and a parent of small kids. On the animal-lover side, I have some favorites:  dogs, cats, and gorillas.  Yes, gorillas rank right up there for me. They are amazing creatures. So human-like. Full of personality. I am amazed by gorillas. Our zoo has a great gorilla habitat where I can spend days just watching them. I once watched a momma gorilla snuggle her baby, just like a human mommy.  She was patting the baby gorilla’s back like she was burping her. I also watched a young gorilla (think teenager), pick his nose, eat it, and when the crowd watching him all yelled, “Ewwwww”, he belly-laughed, rolling on the ground and pointing at the crowd.  He then stood up and picked his nose again. He realized he had an audience.  Gorillas have compassion, love, and senses of humor.  They are amazing creatures.

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Being a fan of gorillas, I probably don’t need to say why the situation that happened this weekend really upset me.  My first instinct was being very angry that they killed Harambe.  The first videos released were edited so “disturbing parts” weren’t shown.  But when the internet exploded with outrage, they released those.  And I’m glad they did because it makes it clearer that tranquilizing him wasn’t an option.  I’m not convinced he was going to hurt that child (at some points it looks like he’s actually protecting him).  But I can tell he freaked out that something fell into his home and he didn’t know what to do about it. The onlookers all screaming didn’t help the situation. He became agitated very quickly. And at that point he became unpredictable.  Unpredictable, but the fact is still that the gorilla did nothing wrong. NOTHING. He was a gorilla, simply being a gorilla, guarding his family and his home.

Unfortunately though, with a child’s life on the line, the zoo officials had no choice.

Jungle Jack Hanna agrees too…  Watch here.

 

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“Seeing the entire video of him dragging the child is scary to watch and shows me that zoo officials had to come to a tough decision.  The unpredictability of the situation, with a child’s life in jeopardy, left them no choice.”

 

BUT, and here’s why I’m pissed…. the video doesn’t change a single thing about the fact that a kid at a zoo shouldn’t be able to go “under a rail, through wires and over a moat wall”, without his parents noticing.  As a parent myself, I am hesitant to ever judge another parent.  Ever.  We all love our kids and are doing the best we can.  And we’ve all had moments where we’ve screwed up.  But come on.  This one is tough to excuse.

WATCH YOUR CHILDREN AT ALL TIMES

Animal Biologist Jeff Corwin gave a great interview saying “a zoo is not a babysitter”, and that “parents have a responsibility to watch their kids everywhere they go”.  There are a lot of parents who don’t feel the weight of that responsibility.  It’s a different story if you lose sight of your kids at the local Piggly Wiggly. That has its own dangers.

At a zoo though, you are not only endangering your own children’s lives but the animals’ lives too.  And this weekend, an innocent animal’s life had to be taken because of that negligence. An endangered animal, who did NOTHING WRONG.

That’s the part that makes me sad.  It didn’t have to happen.  And it shouldn’t have happened.

 

I’m not the only person mad…

So far, nearly 100,000 supporters have signed up to a campaign on Change.org calling for the parents to be investigated after the child fell up to 12 feet into the enclosure. The petition reads: “This beautiful gorilla lost his life because the boy’s parents did not keep a closer watch on the child. We the undersigned believe that the child would not have been able to enter the enclosure under proper parental supervision.”

Also, Police are deciding whether to charge the parents with child neglect.

 

What do you think about this situation?  

 

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Happy Mother’s Day

Happy Mother’s Day to my fellow hard-working ladies.  We are the glue that holds it all together.  There is no glory in being a mom.  It’s an under-appreciated, messy, dirty, thankless job.  And we do it for no pay.  But it’s also the best job in the world. A smile, a kiss, a proud mommy moment…  those moments make the tough days bearable.

Make sure you celebrate the mom in your life and also celebrate yourself today.

Sleep in, read a good book, do no dishes, no laundry, no cooking, no taxi-driving…  JUST RELAX!  (Don’t worry – the mess will still be waiting for you tomorrow!)

Happy Mom’s Day!

 

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Maternity Leave Is Not a Vacation

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Everything about this ridiculous book makes me want to scream.

She says, “After 10 years of working in a job where I was always on deadline, I couldn’t help but feel envious when parents on staff left the office at 6 p.m. to tend to their children, while it was assumed co-workers without kids would stay behind to pick up the slack.”

That’s Bulls#&t!

I had a 15-year career in the television industry and I either had to continue working my regular 60-70 hours a week after I had kids, or choose to give up my career. Those were my two choices. No one was “okay” with me leaving at 6pm just because I became a mom. So I abandoned my hard-earned career because when confronted with the choice between career and my baby, my baby won.  And my career was done.

As a mother, I can’t understand how this woman can tell the world that when women have babies, they get a “vacation” to take care of their babies.  They get “ME TIME”.  That’s a laugh.  It’s completely NOT true.

Motherhood is not a break.  It’s not “ME TIME”. It’s the complete opposite.  Everything during those first few months, is blindly focused on the baby you gave birth to.  “Me” is an after-thought.  “Me” is neglected.  “Me” is forgotten.

Not to mention that motherhood F#@ks up careers, and it’s the farthest thing from a vacation you can imagine.

But yet this author has decided she is entitled to “Me-ternity”, like our “Ma-ternity”.  To take care of herself.  Alone.

Moms dream of having 5 minutes ALONE!  She is clueless.  And the idea of “ME-ternity” is beyond ridiculous.

So… I’ve decided that her punishment for writing this book should be that she needs to actually take MATERNITY LEAVE and to take care of a baby for that entire time. No sleep, no showers, no pee’ing alone, no pooping alone, no doing anything alone. And certainly no “ME-TIME”.

What do you think?  I am sure that she’ll be singing a different tune after that.

And I think she’ll owe a lot of hard-working moms an apology!

#MomsRock

 

Read about her here – http://nypost.com/2016/04/28/i-want-all-the-perks-of-maternity-leave-without-having-any-kids/

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What Do You Need?

I love this.

I discovered this bulletin board hanging in my lovely, little town. It says, “Take What You Need”. And the tabs read,

Love, Hope, Faith, Patience,

Courage, Understanding, Peace,

Passion, Strength, Beauty.

 

All of our basic human needs.

My wish is that the tab you take could actually help with what you NEED. Wouldn’t that be amazing?

I need pretty much all of it… love, faith, courage, and strength. Oh, and let’s not forget patience. What mom couldn’t use a lot more patience? Every single day.

So what is it that you NEED?  Let us know.

 

 

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Seriously, Just Go The F**k To Sleep

HONEST PARENTING MOMENT:

Most kids haven’t yet learned the full value of sleep. The important preciousness of catching your much needed zzzzzzz’s. So kids fight against going to sleep. Every single night.

I admit, I struggle with bedtime. I am home alone every evening with my kids and each night feels like the movie, “Groundhog Day”. I repeat the same routine every night.  I do baths, brush little teeth, read a couple books, say prayers… basically, I cover every single bedtime ritual those damn parenting books told me to.  Then kisses and hugs goodnight and I tiptoe down the stairs.

And every night, the minute my feet hit the bottom step, I hear, “MOMMMMMMMM-EEEEEEEEEE”.

“Yes?”, I call.

“I’m lonely”, the little voice upstairs says.

“It’s okay, I am right downstairs, don’t feel lonely, get some sleep”.

“Okay”, the cute little voice says. And I hear them hop in bed.

About 20 seconds later…. “MOMMMMMMMM-EEEEEEEEEEE”.

“I’m thirsty”

“I’m cold”

“I’m hot”

“I’m awake”

“I’m not tired”

“I’m hungry”

“I’m full”

“I’m scared”

“I DON’T KNOW HOW TO FALL ASLEEP”

This happens every, single, night.

I stay calm and go back upstairs and soothe the child having trouble falling asleep.

But honestly, every single night, I really want to yell, “JUST GO THE F**K TO SLEEP!”  Admit it, every mom out there knows exactly how I feel!

So when I stumbled upon this awesome book-reading by actress Jennifer Garner, I was thrilled to discover I am not alone. I did a little research and discovered it’s actually a very popular book among parents…

 

“I know you’re not thirsty. That’s bullshit. Stop lying.”

“Lie the F**k down, my darling, and sleep”.

You have to watch this video if you haven’t already. I love it….

“Go the F**k to Sleep”, read by Jennifer Garner:

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Now I don’t feel so bad saying, PLEASE, kids, just GO THE F**K TO SLEEP!  lol

 

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Important Disclaimer:  I will not be reading this book TO my kids. But it does make me feel a lot better to know I am not the only mom who wants to!  ~Cindie

 

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Life With Three Dogs: The Stolen Pizza

Dogs are like children. Fun, but a lot of work. But just like my kids, I wouldn’t want to live my life without my dogs.

When I had just one dog, it was relatively easy. Then we adopted a 2nd dog and it was more fun and a bit more work for me. Last year I accidentally rescued a 3rd dog and my once calm house turned into a crazy zoo! Sure they are all cute, but it’s a zoo.

An example of the daily zoo-like chaos occurred yesterday when my 8-year-old neighbor unexpectedly knocked on our front door. Unexpected visitors and 3 dogs are not a good combination. One dog barks, the other 2 assume there is a murderer at the front door and they all go into “attack mode”. Basically, chaos erupts.

Through the barking, my neighbor told me she had come over to see if my daughter wanted to go to her house for a playdate. I was starting to make dinner so I told my daughter she could go over for a ½ hour but that she needed to come back for our “make your own pizza” night.  I had the dough and all the ingredients already out on the counter. Each of my kids was going to personalize their own pizza.

My daughter went out the front door, and suddenly my middle dog lunged out the door at the neighbor. He didn’t try to hurt her, but he jumped on her and suddenly I see feathers everywhere. His nails had sliced a hole right down the back of her goose down jacket. She started spinning around and feathers flew out. Which made my dog go bananas. She began to run, and he chased the feathers.

I ran after both of them, hoping my dog didn’t think he was chasing an actual goose! Eventually, my neighbor and my daughter got out of our yard and past where my dog could run. Safe.

I walked back into my house with my dog, laughing about the scene. All those feathers flying. Me yelling, the 2 girls hysterically laughing. Wait a minute. I stopped abruptly. I realized I now owed my neighbor a new down coat!  UGH.

I opened my front door and I immediately sensed something was wrong. My house was quiet. Where were my other 2 dogs? Silence. Surely they witnessed that scene outside. But they were quiet.

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I walked into my kitchen and found them. Quiet as could be. Eating everything I had put out on the counter for dinner. E-V-E-R-Y-T-H-I-N-G. The pizza dough, the sauce, the cheese, the pepperoni, the mushrooms. All of it was gone. Well, not completely gone, there were crumbs everywhere.

And it was at that precise moment that I decided to sell all 3 dogs on eBay. Really cheap. Don’t let the cute faces fool you! They are EVIL.

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